下半生怎么过? Trundling into Twilight Years
Parenthood may be a pleasure though not an easy task. But as the years advance and children start to leave home, an empty nest syndrome can start to build-up. It makes one ponder about the next phase of life.
After reaching middle age from 50 onwards to 60, 70, 80 or even to a ripe old age of 90, you will go into a physical and mental decline. For many people, the secret of a satisfying old age can be combination of an active mind in a sound body.
Take the case of my good friend ?Chow Khim Chew who is in his early fifties. Retirement need not mean of narrowing horizons as he has done well in life and with the new found leisure, Chow and wife travel abroad often. He enjoys playing Chinese and Western musical instrument and his wife provides good companionship. We always look up to him as he has run his business to a good level and being middle-age, he is not too old to reap the benefits of a loving family relationship.
But another friend Kennedy Tan involved in direct sales is not so lucky after making a fortune a decade ago, he went through a lot of turmoil. Now approaching sixty, he can look back at those unhappy times. But during the worst crisis period, he was not dampened in spirits and continued to put in a lot of efforts for the Chinese education issue of primary schools. He asked for no benefits but today even with world economic gloom everywhere, he and wife are both doing very well locally and expanding their business to the Middle East. Optimists are happy people who expect good things to happen.
More and more people are taking their pre-retirement skills to voluntary organizations and our friends, both Mr. & Mrs. Ho are remaining active in the PTA and they are well into their seventies. Both are very sprightly and can testify to the truth that old age need not be filled with depression. Their son is holding a fine job and lives with the parents. Daughter-in-law is a lady laced with filial piety gestures.
My parents are now into their eighties. When my father was young, he suffered a heart problem and had hypertension. But with a brood of children to care, he paid careful attention to his diet and medication. Thinking positively about health has helped him to keep sickness at bay or working to cure it when it arises.
More than 10 years ago, my mother started to be affected by all the illnesses of present day issue. With a strong character, she tries not to fuss over pains. But this CNY, she suffered a hip fracture and was hospitalized. We spent an uneasy CNY and prayed for her quick recovery. Let us hope she will have many more happy, healthy years to come.
Both of us are now preparing ourselves for healthy and active old age. Financially, we should remain independent as long as possible. Being in good health physically and emotionally can help us to enjoy our coming golden years.